Do your goals match who you really are, or who you truly want to become?
For any goal to take hold, it must be accompanied by an underlying change in identity.
In a world where we can sometimes be made to feel "less than" it can become easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of chasing the next shiny object.
In our world of fitness, that shiny object might be abs, or a number on the barbell, or a new gymnastics skill.
I have seen people becoming disillusioned with CrossFit and fitness in general because they're trying to chase someone else's goals and not having that honest talk with themselves about what would be truly fulfilling. Getting caught up in the trap of comparison, they think they want certain movements or weights but don't value the end goal enough to make time for the work required to get there. They live a life of a fitness "Jekyll and Hyde," going hard in the gym but doing nothing to help their progress when outside of the gym. There is nothing wrong with this lifestyle, it will still net you more fitness than most. However, you have to be honest with yourself about whether or not your goals and lifestyle line up to meet at the same point. It's a hard talk to have.
For most, things come relatively easy during the first few years of doing fitness. Everyone has a certain potential their body can achieve without much change to lifestyle, nutrition, or sleep. If you go from not moving at all to picking up a weight for the first time, seemingly magical things will happen. Some like to call these "beginner gains." Once those slow down and your progress plateaus it is up to you and you alone where you want to take your fitness, but you have to be honest with yourself.
Don't get me wrong. After a couple years it becomes increasingly difficult to move the needle (sooner or later the needle moves backwards and there's nothing we can do about that, except for try to slow it as much as possible). At a certain point most will need to choose between changing fundamental parts of who they are to chase these goals, or to be fulfilled with the fact that they are a very fit individual and have an hour of gym time they can enjoy 3-5 days a week.
The importance of being aligned with your goals is so much more than just attaining them, but also keeping them and having it not feel like a chore to do so. The reason you see so many people yo-yo diet is because there is a goal met without any underlying change in identity. If you want to be leaner but your current identity involves micro breweries and partying 3 nights a week, you will not enjoy trying to be lean. And if you get there without changing that underlying identity, the numbers lean towards you backsliding, and backsliding hard.
Please don't think this post was about just being lean. I went for the low-hanging fruit with that example. This is applicable to any goal. Your goals must align with who you are or who you will become. There is no avoiding this.
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